SETTING LIMITS IN A RELATIONSHIP

SETTING LIMITS: Setting limits in a relationship has been viewed by many as a very difficult task.  It is a difficult task because in the course of applying it, you could be misunderstood  by the recipient(s) who could see it from a difference perspective, while your actual intenton
, is for the good benefit of both of you.

Some are of the opinion that in every given relationship, there exist a "LIMITS". They based their aguement in the sense that , no matter how we pretend to care for our partner, or loved one, we can never solve all their problems or do everything for them.
According to CAREGIVER   realizing the added pressure of being a full time caregiver is not the only challanges faced by many, rather, it is the stress of caring for a loved one, and at the same time, maintaining a job and supporting a family= caregiver.com.

People sometimes sees "setting limits" as insurmontable task especially when it has to do with a loved one. Like every other SKILS, the process gets easier with some practice. Limit setting is difficult, stressful, painful, full of anxiety, suspicion and even sometimes leads to emptiness,because your best friend or the recipient could mistaken it to be rejection or a way of keeping him/her a bit "off" you, when actually the massage means that you really care, though not get entangled in your friend`s problem.

CHOOSING TO PRACTICE LIMIT SETTING: If you choose to practice limit setting, it means you are separating yourself from behaviour patterns and familiar roles by which you are known for, and this sometimes leads to guilt.
Choosing limit setting is like choosing to create boundries in your relationship. In as much this is in place, you must learn to tolarate a difficult relationship situations.

THINK AND PAUSE: Before setting out for a 'LIMIT SETTING", think and pause for a while, ask yourself whether you are well prepared to embark on such task. This is to avoid being misunderstood by your recipients or finding yourself making the mistake of your life especially when it has to do with LOVE. consider the difficult angles of it, take a personal decision, define your decisions and consider the areas you need it applied.

However, what is your own opinion? choosing to practice LIMIT SETTING or not, let hear from you.

Thank you.

Chuks Ukoha.